EGO Check: One, Two Three…Is This Thing On?
A funny thing happened on the way to writing another blog for the station web site. I realized that a previous piece that I’d written was mysteriously missing. That’s odd, I know it was there, I put it there, I read it there, what happened? Then it hit me, somebody didn’t like me talking about a certain topic…oops!
Actually, my first thought was WTH that was a great article, informative, humorous and well written. Then I thought “well, somebody could have said something to me. Then at 5am this morning after having gotten to bed at 2am…I got out of bed…and it hits me!! I get it…my ego is bruised!!
Now I’ve read enough Wayne Dyer books and listened to enough self-help motivational CD’s to know that “Ego is the source of a lot of conflict and dissension because it pushes you in the direction of making other people wrong”. I’m also a firm believer that when you work for someone else, your purpose is to execute THEIR vision, THEIR plan. It’s NOT ABOUT ME!!! I love it when I remember that I know something and can apply it to my life in real-time.
Far too many times we allow our ego’s get in the way of learning a lesson. Stop me if this hits home. We hear people complain all too often about jobs, co-workers, spouses, lack of a spouse. More times than not, our complaints have more to do with how we “feel”, what someone else did to us, why someone else “just doesn’t get it”. What we need to do is learn to stop being offended. Being offended creates a negative energy that only leads us to more negative thoughts…much like or worse than the original “offense”.
As important as we all think we are (and we ARE), in the big ‘old universe there are a lot of other important things too. There is this thing I do, when confronted with physical pain, i.e., dentist visits etc., I say “how does this compare to the worse pain I’ve ever felt”? Not even close, so I’m good. I got through Childbirth (twice), I’ll get through this. Moving on!
So, when it comes to something that I’m passionate about like writing, I have to remember that there is a time and place for everything and just because this isn’t the place (this time), it only means that I have to create or make available another venue for my words, ideas, passions. The truth is; I should have done that a long time ago. Now we get to the real reason I was “offended”…and the lesson’s keep on coming.
Now when it comes to people, they always provide teachable moments. People come into our lives all the time to teach us patience, humility, tolerance, how to cuss and most importantly, how to love. If we remember that everyone is going through something (good and bad), and it’s up to US to control the one thing that above all else we do have control over our selves. When we do this…situations take on a different meaning. As they say “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change”.
Today my Program Director pulled me aside and mentioned the blog and why it didn’t fit with the image and goal of what we are striving for. I loved that. I was always taught that it’s better to “go too far” and be pulled back then to never let people know how much you are capable to doing. Most importantly, I loved that she took the time to explain the “why”…she didn’t have to. Most don’t!
Jewel’s Soul Therapy: “Each Warrior wants to leave the mark of his will, his signature, on important acts he touches. This is not the voice of ego but of the human spirit, rising up and declaring that it has something to contribute to the solution of the hardest problems, no matter how vexing!” Pat Riley