Some habits are created to serve as problem solving solutions. When something bad happens, our brain instantly tries to find ways to avoid the pain like eat, shop or have sex. When something good happens we want to remember that feeling and can create habits that we immediately call upon to replace any bad or painful feelings by eating shopping or having sex. See how easy it can become to form a habit that in its worse state you aren’t even sure if you do it because it makes you feel good, or you feel good because you’re doing it?
So, it stands to reason that the first step would be in awareness. I’ll stand out on a limb here and guess that there could be a habit or two or three that you’d like to change. The experts say that you can’t kick a habit only replace it. In essence you would replace a drinking a cup of Starbucks coffee @ $5 a cup, every morning habit, with drinking a cup of coffee that you make at home and going out only once a week to a different Starbucks each time habit. So, not only do you create a “save $30 a week habit”. You also get a meet new people and go to different places habit. See where I’m going with this?
The best thing to do would be to write down what you want to do, be and have. Learn what qualities it takes to accomplish that goal and then create effective new habits to make it happen.
The key is to reprogram your brain to link pleasure with the new task and repeat it over and over and over again. I’ve also found that if you have a task that is painful but necessary, attaching a reward to it makes it easier to accomplish. I call these my painful pleasure habits…watching my recorded episodes of Grey’s Anatomy and Scandal while walking on my treadmill.
What habits would you like to change and what do you plan to do to see it through?
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